Sunday, April 7, 2013

Passing Peace



I was downtown early the other morning on Marietta Street walking through the GSU campus. It was early enough that it was still quite nippy, the wind whipping through the buildings, rising up over the expressway against a clear blue sky, made brilliant by the gold on the Capitol dome. Passing me in both directions on the sidewalk, students with backpacks, groups of athletes, business people, cops. 

I was walking quickly to stay warm and because I was late for an appointment, when a small dark body came up close on my right side. As we made eye contact, he said “good morning.” I smiled. “Good morning,” I returned. The little man kept step with me, and continued, “Thank you for speaking. A lot of people don’t.”

Of course, he spoke to me first but it was nice of him to say. I stopped a moment and he told me his story—he had HIV, it was tough on the street. I had no money, not even a cash card. I gave him my hand before hurrying away on my business.

I was thinking of that this morning in church as we passed peace in the early service. How important it is to touch other people, to look them in the eye, to smile and say “peace.” You matter just because you are a human being. We don’t always know everyone at church, or know them well, and it doesn’t matter. We are practicing blessing each other and that’s what we take with us when we go out into the world.

Ok, the stranger who spoke to me that morning did not disappear from my life. Later in the afternoon, when the sun was out and I was walking through Five Points, I chanced to look back and quite unexpectedly, there he was again. I smiled in recognition, in the way that you do with people that you have connected on the level of, “we are all in this crazy life together.” This time, he smiled back.

Sunday, March 24, 2013

Hotel St. Dunstan's



Hotel St. Dunstan’s has wrapped up its first week! We began the week with two homeless families staying with us. When they arrived, our guests were shown their room, paneled with shoji-screen treatment on the windows. Thank you Ginny for this brilliant, economical, real-simple solution. Sunday supper was prepared and served by an effort representing three parishes: Holy Innocents, St. Dunstan's, and St. Luke's . We hosts joined our guests at the table for Sunday dinner.

When I was growing up, the Sunday dinner was traditionally held at my grandparents' house and all the cousins, aunts, uncles gathered for a family meal. I felt reminiscent of the family gathering.
One overnight host shared, "It was WONDERFUL to see these families here and hear little children laughing in our parish hall.  A great first night!"

One mom works as an LPN. The other mom started a job this past Tuesday. The dads have an opportunity to go to the Family Promise Day Center at St. Luke's Presbyterian to look for work and update their resume.

As Tricia summed it up, "The week has gone very smoothly, mostly thanks to the incredible work of our coordinators, and to the many of you who have volunteered to organize, set up and take down, cook, serve food, and spend the night. Everyone I’ve talked to who has been involved has said it has been a great experience. We’ll have the opportunity to do it again in May. This is, indeed, holy work. Thank  you to all who have been involved."

Monday, February 11, 2013

Hesitation



What made me hesitate? Three times. How hard is it to ask someone if they’d like to you get them a cup of coffee and donut? I mean he definitely looked like he needed it, his skinny bird fame perched high on one of the bar stools on the food side of the convenience store—a young black kid was behind the counter, wiping down the stainless steel. 

I stepped out of line and began walking toward the man, a wool hat pulled down over his eyes, gray dirty hair and beard, clothes, hands stained with dirt folded in front of him on the narrow table top. But then I became suddenly self-conscious and stopped. What if offended him? Who am I to go offering complete strangers coffee and donuts? What if he made a fuss and my fellow convenience store shoppers became irritated with me stirring him up?

The second time I stepped out of line was to see if I could get a glimpse of his face without appearing obvious. Then I felt like he caught me staring and I jumped back in line, yet again. I noticed he was now clutching a dirty t-shirt like a security blanket. 

I am happy to say the third time I stepped out of line, I actually went over and asked the gentleman as politely as I could if I could get him some coffee and a donut, pastries, whatever. He was not at all offended or embarrassed by my offer: “No, thank you. I’d prefer a dollar if you have it.” 

He followed me outside where I retrieved a dollar from the center console. “Just having to get a start over in his business,” he stuttered and then the “business,” as he explained it to me was a few things muddled together—a hotdog-oil change-tire-cleaning shop. Then he stooped down to demonstrate, wiping out the rim of my tire with the dirty t-shirt.
I was in a hurry and stopped him from demonstrating, wishing him the best of luck in his endeavors.

In parting, he apologized: “I mean I didn’t study any marketing or anything like that.”

Sunday, February 3, 2013

Inauguration Day



I’ve been in DC a lot lately for work. If Atlanta is home, then DC has found its way into my heart as my second city, second home. It’s hard to be in the nation’s capital and not at least contemplate the bigger picture, like on inauguration day where I joined thousands to stand in lines that went on for blocks and hours. 

You’d think people would get irritable after six hours in line and two hours waiting by the side of Pennsylvania Avenue, waiting for a blurred glimpse of the president, hidden behind four-inch thick glass in a well-guarded limo. While that’s why many people go—to celebrate their candidate winning—I knew in advance that I was going to see the crowds (a friend tipped me off--unless you’re a very important person, you can expect to stand in the Mall and look at big screen TVs broadcasting the ceremony, none of which will be visible to the naked eye).

This huge mass of bodies (thousands and thousands, nearly a million) becomes important on inauguration day because more than anything, I think it’s a day of national pride and it reminds us of the many virtues we try to cultivate as a country (freedom, liberty, justice, equality) and I think most people feel just that. 

In the lines, everyone spoke quietly, pleasant conversation, where we were from, how we got there, how our guys at Hartsfield airport could process two million people in half the time of the parade security guys. We took each others' hands as if we were passing peace, feeling our bond as Americans, as if our membership in a larger community were as intimate almost as our memberships in our various spiritual communities.

It was a great day but still I wish that larger community of Americans could have all heard Patricia’s sermon this morning, on Paul’s love letter to a fractious community (most often heard in weddings). But the love Paul spoke of, as Billy said at the door after the service, is the harder kind of love. Loving certainly those in your immediate church (what would be the point if you didn’t, even the ones that irritate you) but love as a selfless practice, love as the centerpiece of who we are. Love as a foundation of our Christianity. Without love, we’re nothing, Paul says (I'm paraphrasing).

I’ll quote a bit here:
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.

Wednesday, November 7, 2012

All Saints Day



I think most Episcopalians could do without the bloody cross. We far prefer the symbolism of the Eucharist, a welcoming table.  Bread turned into body, wine turned into blood. A remembrance, a reminder to do this and remember what I stood for (fill in the blank). We come to a common table that is for the purpose of being shared with everyone, and we drink from a common cup.

It’s an ancient practice, older than Christianity. 

Together we vow to forgive. To heal. To love. So to me, the ceremony of the Eucharist has a very functional purpose—going over the pros and cons of my week, hoping to come away sorted out or at least a little more relaxed about whatever it is on my mind. If I’m happy, then the purpose is to take a quiet moment to be thankful. (I know it would be good to live life in a spirit of thanksgiving every moment, but I’m hoping that’s just the ideal!). To find comfort and to ask for strength and courage. The Eucharist has so many wonderful uses!

In any case, today was All Saint’s Day and Patricia read from a list of names of people we love who have died. I share them here:

Jocelyn Bowman
Daniel Woodard
Loretta Kelly
Harry Walker
Narda Sanchez
Betty Williams
John Rayson

Also, we remember loved ones in our Memorial Garden:


Madonna Emery                                 William Davidson
James Robinson                                  Martha Crank
Jane Dickson                                       Frederick Octavius Branch
Ruth Wolfson                                     Thomasine Bradford
Nancy Grede                                       John Loud
Patricia Hart                                        Margaret Davidson
Henry Linss                                         Rosalie Onofrio
Virginia Temple                                  Katherine Whisnant
Robert Neal                                         Richard Hall
Julius Elrod                                         William Barnett
Morgan Cronan                                   Mary Birch Hayes
Harold Earle Davis                             Clare Fleming
Katie Allen Harris                               Irene Goldsmith
Sharyn Riddell                                    Anne Robinson
James Bradford                                   Charles Yates
Jane Hall                                             Eugene Taylor
Kathryn Elrod                                     Billie Neal
Julia Riddell                                        William Riddell
Tillman Dandridge                              Roy Reece
Ron Letcher                                        Caroline Dandridge
Carl Feuchtinger                                 Daniel Woodard